I am a bad blogger!

Its been far too look since I posted. Anyway I am back!
So I have been reading about 101 things in 1001 days. Basically you aim to do these 101 things over the course of the 1001 days. Now for my wandering mind this is far too long! I can't see that far ahead so I am doing my own challenges.


JANUARY


 The first one inspired my Money Saving Expert is to declutter 100 things in January. I did very well with the Mrs Thrifty challenge (see previous posts) and I am already up to 45 things.
This year I am determined to declutter once and for all. Nothing else is coming back in this house either. Everything is going to have a place and I will be training the kids too!  I am selling some furniture and replacing with some more functional pieces. I have really researched this and put a lot of thought into it. (see I am serious about this!)


The second one is I am going to completely finish decorating one room. I haven't decided which yet but I think my bedroom. Partly because its the easiest and partly as I have the wallpaper etc ready. I am going to finish it down to every last detail. I know exactly what I want so it should be easy. 


The third one is to spend less time on the internet. I am going to limit myself. Its ridiculous. I go on to check my on-line banking, have a quick look at Facebook and before I know it 2 hours have passed and I've achieved zilch. Yes its nice to look at pretty things but it doesn't make my things look pretty! 


So on that note I am off to take lots of stuff to the dump/charity/a friend and then to have my car valeted followed by a declutter of a big understairs cupboard. Rock and roll baby!!! 

Giving more than you get

Some days/weeks don't you just feel like you give way more than you get? I'm not talking material things I'm talking the ungrateful children, the friends who take take take, the boyfriend that takes you for granted or the family who make you feel bad for what you haven't done instead of thinking about what you do actually do. 


THE UNGRATEFUL CHILDREN!


They have so much yet always want more...I blame this on the tv, peer pressure and the ex! I actually blame most of it on the ex. I used to buy their Christmas presents then he'd say oh thats not enough and buy more! Just as an example the last Christmas we were together the teenager had a laptop...£399 and other bits...probably amounting £600. (this embarrasses me now). He then went and bought her a pair of Ugg boots. Last year it was an I-pad plus what I'd bought her. Her expectations are now way too high. I've explained that this year I just cannot afford it and am met by 'but all my friends have XXXX or so and so gets XXXX. Yes well sorry but I'm not so and so, so its tough! I have now written down all my outgoings and incomings and given her the harsh realities of day to day living. She is now talking about getting a job!
I worry about the younger two and that they will grow up expecting all the latest things. They know that Father Christmas doesn't bring them everything on their list. However he will be visiting twice- at their dads and here. The ex has already gone WAY overboard. At the end of the day it is up to him but he is terrible with money and I don't think that this is a good lesson for them.
Anyway this year the teenager will be having £200 spent on her. The other 2 (6&4) £100. With deals I've got they actually have more like £140-£160 worth. 


THE FRIENDS WHO TAKE TAKE TAKE!


To make a long story very short- my 'friend' splits up with her boyfriend and I see her all the time. She gets back with him its like she has disappeared off the face of the earth. And so this cycle continues. I saw her 3 times last week and they weren't back together. Back together since last Friday...not a word. Grrr.....so I'm through with it. Fed up of feeling used.


BOYFRIEND TAKING ME FOR GRANTED!


This is so self explanatory really isn't it! He's a man, they don't think. He'll be told at the weekend too! Its the mood I'm in!


THE FAMILY!


My sister moaning that I'm not going  to my parents Christmas day so she won't see the children. I have never ever spent a single Christmas apart from my family and this year I've decided to. My mum  is fine with it although I'm sure she'd prefer us there she understands. We are there Boxing Day. However my sister isn't. Its like she is expecting me to change my plans so that it suits her! This incidentally is the same sister that I've been trying to get together with for weeks! 


Anyway enough of moaning! Its nearly Christmas lol! 


Do you ever feel like this? xxxx

Getting inspired!

I have no excuses to do stuff except that I am a procrastinator. I am amazing at planning but the actual doing- but nope half the time it just doesn't happen. So with this in mind I am concentrating on just doing it. Inspired by Flylady http://www.flylady.net/  I am going for the 15 minute bursts. It really is true that you can do anything for 15 minutes! 
I have also been inspired by http://www.athriftymrs.com/ and her get rid of 90 things by the end of November. I won't bore you with things I have decluttered but I am up to 37. Only took me 2 days to get rid of that as well!


Also inspired to make these but lets see if I do lol! I have loads of different buttons.

Love this idea but knowing me thats all it will be!

Good one for the kids

Really want to do this! Monogram labels. Cute!

Fab idea for cards.

 Images from http://www.marthastewart.com

So now I need to do instead of think! 

Are you a procrastinator like me?! xx

Feeling Christmassy!

I have sat down today...in fact its taken me nearly all day...and worked out what I need to buy, who for and how much I'll need for Christmas. I have been saving with Park for 2 years and its been great for me. However I had to stop paying so much as just couldn't afford it. My vouchers have now been converted into love2shop instead of a combination of Amazon and love2shop which is a right pain but i've juggled and should be on track. Can't wait to start spending!!!


Been thinking about decorating the house as want to do something different as well as the Christmas tree. 

Loving this and my friend has 'twiddly twigs' in his garden-perfect!

More sophisticated!

Really pretty & sparkly

Gorgeous, i have something similiar

Love this idea

Now i am buzzing with ideas....must stop this before bedtime!!

Night all. xx

Bedroom fantasies!!

White- how nice that would be! 

I adore decorative birdcages so this bedroom appeals lots!

Bedroom with a bath in...yes please!

I dream of old beams, rustic walls & wooden floors

So pretty!

A room for a princess.

Love the textures.

Anyway enough of the dreaming my bedroom will soon be sporting this wallpaper:

Laura Ashley Josette. Unfortunately my bedroom is probably the size of the bed...ok exaggeration but I can only fit a double bed and chest of drawers in it! Going to paint the drawers Annie Sloan Paris Grey.

Really must get on with it! Want it done by Christmas along with my million other things! 

Goodnight all. I will dream of heavenly bedrooms! xx

Love & Trust

Today my best friend phoned me very upset as her boyfriend had been sending messages to his ex. Just silly things like 'happy birthday' and 'oh sorry I missed you the other day' (when he had arrived not long after at the pub she had just left).
How does my friend know this? She checked his Facebook. I've been sitting here thinking and it points to 2 things-she doesn't trust him but he trusts her. She has all his passwords-he has given them to her. (Not sure why but irrelevant really!) Something made her decide to check up on him and she found out things that she didn't like. However if he really was trying to hide anything from her then surely these passwords would have remained secret? Also he has been split up from said ex for about 5 years although by his own admission she was his first love and he was really cut up over the split as she cheated on him. When she recently got engaged he got overly upset. Part of me wonders why he is still 'friends' with her on Facebook. To me the past is the past. I have no desire to be friends with any of my exe's. The only reason I speak to my ex is that we have children together or else I'd quite happily never set eyes on him again!! My friend now has the evil paranoia which will threaten their relationship. She has been hurt before quite badly but then haven't we all? They've only been together 6 months and she is now feeling like the bubble has burst. Me..well I just feel that its a misunderstanding that can be sorted as long as they deal with it now. 

 Trust really is the most important thing. My ex cheated on me. In fact it started 6 weeks after he proposed to me...nice hey? We'd been together nearly 9 years. You think you know a person but I never knew him at all. I found out after he cheated on me more or less the whole time. But you have to move on from what ONE person did to you. You cannot judge others by somebody else. 

My boyfriend works away during the week. Yes its hard. Bizarrely its the same situation I was in before and swore I'd never get into again! I think that if it had been the situation when I first met him I'd have probably run for the hills but it was too late when he started working away cos I'd fallen hook line and sinker! Our whole relationship is based on trust. Without it our relationship would fall apart. His ex also cheated on him as did the one before her. I will never ever be that girl. How do I know that? Because I remember the hurt and pain. I never want to be the cause of that to anyone. And also its just morally wrong. If I even felt tempted I'd have to end it. 
Anyway I guess the whole point of this is that love and trust go hand in hand you have to have both to make it work.

I love Christian Louboutin!

Is it really shallow that right now all I want in the world is one of these bags!